Losing a Pet – What to Do When your Pekingese Crosses Over


Losing a pet is part of the cycle and it can be very painful and traumatic to your little ones if you do not know how to handle it. As with learning, a kid’s curiosity, awareness and understanding about death grows little by little. And there are so many parts that make up the entire concept of death — aging, life cycle, life span and what happens after death. That is quite a whole lot for a kid to learn.

Death is not something that your kid should be sheltered from. It begins as soon as the kid is able to notice that the dead leaves are beginning to fall off the tree. Learning about this from the people that she trusts and loves puts her at ease.

As a matter of fact, when your kid reaches age 4, he/she would start to wonder about death. So you must weave it into his/her dramatic play and introduce words like die, shoot, kill, dead. This is going to be good for them as this is all part of their learning process.

It is really hard for everyone to handle death, especially a member of the family. Though it is less likely that your kid would be exposed first on a person that is dying, thank goodness! More or less your kid’s first death experience would be the one regarding his pet. And as a parent, you should know how to deal with that.

Losing a Pet – What to Do When your Pekingese Crosses Over

Losing a Pet

When a child that is 7 years old and younger sees that his pet is dead:

  • Don’t sugar coat. Less it more. Give a clear, clean information  Sugar coating the reality would only complicate things. Simply tell your kid that your pet couldn’t walk, see, lick, bark, play, pee or poop.
  • Do not avoid it. As sad and hard as it is, your pet has to experience sadness from the experience.
  • Answer all his questions honestly and age appropriately.
  • Do not mention cremation. If he asks what you are going to do with your pet’s body, it is wise to tell him that you will take it to vet since he has a special place for dead pets. Do not mention about cremation since it would be scary for him at his age.

What you are going to feel:

Different people experience grief in different ways. Besides your sorrow and loss, you may also experience the following emotions:

  • Guilt may occur if you feel responsible for your pet’s death. It is pointless and often wrong to burden yourself with guilt for the accident or illness that claimed your pet’s life.
  • Denial makes it difficult to accept that your pet is really gone. Some pet owners carry this to extremes, and fear their pet is still alive and suffering somewhere.
  • Anger may be directed at the illness that killed your pet, the driver of the speeding car, the veterinarian who “failed” to save its life. Sometimes it is justified, but when carried to extremes, it distracts you from the important task of resolving your grief.
  • Depression is a natural consequence of grief, but can leave you powerless to cope with your feelings. Extreme depression robs you of motivation and energy, causing you to dwell upon your sorrow.

Losing a pet is not that easy, I know. And the most important step is to accept it and be honest about your feelings. Do not ever deny your pain, anger and guilt. Express it by screaming, crying, talk it out, etc… Locking away doesn’t make it all go away. Others find comfort in writing poems, stories, photo collage or the likes. Do not be afraid to get another puppy since he/she may not the be the same as the old one but he/she will always bring a whole new happiness in your home.

Have you ever tried losing a pet? How did you handle the emotions? What did you tell your kids? Tell us your story below.



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Cataracts in Dogs – Fight Against it with your Pekingese

Cataracts in Dogs – Fight Against it with your Pekingese

Cataracts in dogs is common as they age but we can do some steps in order to help our pets fight it. First off, what are cataracts? It is the opacity in the lens of your pet’s eye, thus causing blurry vision. If the cataract is still tiny, it won’t be any disturbance to him however you must monitor it since the denser and thicker they become, the bigger the chance that it will to blindness.

Cataracts develop due to old age or may arise from trauma or from a disease such as diabetes, however the most common factor is that it is hereditary. Cataracts may be there already the moment your pet was born and would only develop once he reaches at least 1 year old.

So, how can you determine if your pet already has cataracts? Check his eyes. If it appears bluish-gray in color or cloudy, then take him immediately to the vet for an exam. Be warned though that a dog’s lens normally becomes cloudy and gray as they age. This is called nuclear sclerosis, but this condition doesn’t put your pet’s vision at any risk and treatment is usually not recommended.

An untreated cataract may slip from the tissue which it lodged from and would float around the eye and may block the natural fluid drainage. This would then lead to glaucoma  which eventually leads to permanent blindness. Cataracts also dissolve with time, causing a painful and deep inflammation in your pet’s eye.

Cataracts in Dogs

For a more detailed information about cataracts, click here.

How to Prevent it Naturally

  • Vitamins C & E. You can fight free radicals with these vitamins. They are known to be antioxidants since they block all of the free radicals’ harmful effects. For pets who have cataracts the given dose is 50 IU of vit. E per 10 pounds of body weight once daily. Simply punch a tiny hole on the vit. E and squeeze it unto your pet’s food. Vit. C actually causes diarrhea so you have to experiment a bit to see what dose your pet can tolerate.
  • Vegetables. Incorporate more veggies unto his daily diet. Carrots, kale and other yellow and green vegetables are very rich in antioxidants.
  • Bilberries. When taken in tablet form, this antioxidant would protect the tissue of your pet’s eye. Experts found out that bilberry when mixed with vit. R stopped the clouding of lens in 97% of their test subjects who has early stage cataracts. Ideal dose would be 50mg to be mixed in your pet’s food on a daily basis.
  • Beta-carotene. This is one antioxidant that when absorbed would be converted to vit. A which protects the eye tissues. Ask your vet on what is the proper dose for your pet.
  • Cineraria. This is a healing herb which has the ability to reverse the cataracts that have already formed thus minimizing the need for surgical intervention. This is one of the few things that can really clear cataracts and it comes in eye drop form. Just ask your vet about it and ask for a prescription.

It is normal for your pet’s eyes to age and go through changes as they grow older. Thus, cataracts in dogs is not something new nor unusual. They are often caused by free radicals, diabetes, aging, trauma among others. The good news is that free radicals can be dealt with preventing the developing of cataracts in your pet’s eyes.

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Dog Hearing Test: Is your Pekingese Becoming Deaf?

Dog Hearing Test: Is your Pekingese Becoming Deaf?

Does your pet need a dog hearing test? I know, it can be devastating when your pet suddenly stops acknowledging your when you two are in the same room. And you think that he is not listening to you when you call on him. Or you noticed that he can no longer recognize what once were familiar voices. You may personally take it as a sign of disinterest on things, however your pet may have lost some if not all of his hearing. There are various factors that contribute to a dog’s hearing loss: old age, wax build up, untreated ear infections. You can actually perform a hearing test on him at home or you can bring him to the vet to be sure on what is really going on with him and his hearing.

Also remember that this isn’t purely about hearing loss matter, know that once a dog gets older his brain is slower in processing it thus the reaction would also come late. The mix of no reaction and hearing loss is often seen in older pets and the owner would then think that he is being inattentive. Please do avoid on punishing him due to not being attentive to you, he may become afraid. You better know the real reason behind his condition.

Dog Hearing Test

How to Test your Pet’s Hearing

  • Clean his ears. Moist a cotton ball with warm (not hot) water. Then gently rub wax and dirt off his earlobe. Then moisten a cotton swab with the same warm water remove dirt in the canal and cartilage. Do not ever push the swab down his ear canal. Repeat this same procedure on his other ear.
  • Test his hearing. Use various sounds and determine his reaction. The experts from the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals say that you can test his hearing at home by quietly stepping up behind him and clap loudly once and see his reaction. Be sure that he is unaware of you creeping up on him. You can also use a squeaky toy, vacuum cleaner or keys as source of sound. If he doesn’t show any reaction at all, then he may be deaf. You can also try calling his name at one area of the room. If he comes running to you in the opposite direction then he is partially deaf.
  • Do the BAER test. Complete the BAER test to be sure. Go to your vet and submit your pet for a BAER (Brainstem Auditory Evoked Response) testing. This test uses a computer in order to record the electrical activity of the brain in response to the sound.

It is a common misconception on part of the pet parents to equate their pet’s attentiveness as a sign of misbehavior. Who knows, your pet may already need a dog hearing test because of certain conditions. Do not judge your pet immediately nor punish him instantly just because he didn’t come at the beck of your call.

Is your pekingese an elderly and is he already showing signs of hearing loss? How did you know that he is already losing his sense of hearing? Tell us more about your story below.



Senior Dog Care – Caring for your Aging Pekingese

Senior dog care is no joke and the best decision you can make for them is going to start from the inside – their diet. Spending high quality food as much as your income can accomodate can make a big difference plus you won’t have to go often on vet trips. During their sunset years, please avoid giving them low quality or cheap foods. True, there are many economical dog foods available at your local grocery store but did you know that these kinds of food also contain low-quality ingredients that will tend to be intolerable to your aged pekingese. Giving them poor quality of food surely reflect on their health and physical appearance, and not to mention their vital organs will become less efficient due to their aging process. Unless recommended by your vet, it is wise to stay away from the dog foods that are sold from the grocery.

Older dogs tend to need more protein in their body, so what we sometimes get away in giving to an adult dog will definitely not do for a senior. So, what is the right food for them you ask? First look for the AAFCO (Association of American Feed Control Officials) approved label. Second is you scrutinize the quality level. High-quality foods tend to have supplements and viatamins which proves to be beneficial for your aging pekingese.

Poor food intake would mean poor coat quality, gastrointestinal diseases, prone to skin allergies, and becoming weak. The vet trips that you will have to do due to poor nutrition would become inevitable. In the end, your ‘cheap bargain’ on the low-quality dog food will catch up and it is your dog who will suffer the consequences.

Senior Dog Care – Caring for your Aging Pekingese

Senior Dog Care

Thanks to advances in veterinary medicine, pets are living longer than ever before. However with this increased lifespan comes an increase in the types of ailments that can afflict senior pets. As pets reach the golden years, there are a variety of conditions and diseases that they can face, including weight and mobility changes; osteoarthritis; kidney, heart, and liver disease; tumors and cancers; hormone disorders such as diabetes and thyroid imbalance; and many others. Just as the health care needs of humans change as we age, the same applies to pets. It’s critical for pet owners to work closely with their veterinarian to devise a health plan that is best for their senior pet.

Source: Healthy Pet, http://www.healthypet.com/PetCare/PetCareArticle.aspx?title=Senior_Pet_Care

Senior Dog Care Tips:

  • Physical Changes. When your pekingese reaches age 8-14 years, your dog’s body will begin its change. He may develop joint problems and arthritis and he will also become less mobile. Giving him glucosamine and chondroitin along with his daily diet would keep his joints supple. Additional vitamins, antioxidants and other mineral may also help strengthen his immune system.
  • Behavioral Changes. Be aware that as your pekingese ages, he would develop new behavioral patterns. This would include aggression, depression or separation anxiety.
  • Separation Anxiety, Depression and Agression. You will somehow notice that your pekingese would tend to become restless as you begin to change for work or his urine/feces are all over the place and your furniture are a wreck once you get home. It is advisable for you to leave casually and leave lots of hidden treats behind for him to find once you are gone. He will then associate your departure as a positive experience. Depression and agression is possibly due to anxiety as well. It is best that you keep the routine constant and keep in touch with him in any way possible while you are out. If you can afford, you can hire a nanny for him or leave him at a day care center.
  • Diet. Having a senior pekingese aroudn would mean special nutritional needs for him. He will need ample fat and protein. Also note that senior dogs are more prone to constipation, thus fibers in her diet is very essential. And due to his decreased metabolism, he would likely become obese if you are not being careful on what you feed him. Decrease his caloric intake and fat content in his meals.

Senior dog care is a very serious matter. This is the time that your pekingese will need you the most and you should be there to watch over them carefully. Every dog deserves a loving and dependent human companion in order for them to feel loved and fulfilled during their lifetime. Since they already served and loved you more than their entire lives, it is about time that you will repay that love during their sunset years and let them really feel your love for them.

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