Losing a Pet – What to Do When your Pekingese Crosses Over


Losing a pet is part of the cycle and it can be very painful and traumatic to your little ones if you do not know how to handle it. As with learning, a kid’s curiosity, awareness and understanding about death grows little by little. And there are so many parts that make up the entire concept of death — aging, life cycle, life span and what happens after death. That is quite a whole lot for a kid to learn.

Death is not something that your kid should be sheltered from. It begins as soon as the kid is able to notice that the dead leaves are beginning to fall off the tree. Learning about this from the people that she trusts and loves puts her at ease.

As a matter of fact, when your kid reaches age 4, he/she would start to wonder about death. So you must weave it into his/her dramatic play and introduce words like die, shoot, kill, dead. This is going to be good for them as this is all part of their learning process.

It is really hard for everyone to handle death, especially a member of the family. Though it is less likely that your kid would be exposed first on a person that is dying, thank goodness! More or less your kid’s first death experience would be the one regarding his pet. And as a parent, you should know how to deal with that.

Losing a Pet – What to Do When your Pekingese Crosses Over

Losing a Pet

When a child that is 7 years old and younger sees that his pet is dead:

  • Don’t sugar coat. Less it more. Give a clear, clean information  Sugar coating the reality would only complicate things. Simply tell your kid that your pet couldn’t walk, see, lick, bark, play, pee or poop.
  • Do not avoid it. As sad and hard as it is, your pet has to experience sadness from the experience.
  • Answer all his questions honestly and age appropriately.
  • Do not mention cremation. If he asks what you are going to do with your pet’s body, it is wise to tell him that you will take it to vet since he has a special place for dead pets. Do not mention about cremation since it would be scary for him at his age.

What you are going to feel:

Different people experience grief in different ways. Besides your sorrow and loss, you may also experience the following emotions:

  • Guilt may occur if you feel responsible for your pet’s death. It is pointless and often wrong to burden yourself with guilt for the accident or illness that claimed your pet’s life.
  • Denial makes it difficult to accept that your pet is really gone. Some pet owners carry this to extremes, and fear their pet is still alive and suffering somewhere.
  • Anger may be directed at the illness that killed your pet, the driver of the speeding car, the veterinarian who “failed” to save its life. Sometimes it is justified, but when carried to extremes, it distracts you from the important task of resolving your grief.
  • Depression is a natural consequence of grief, but can leave you powerless to cope with your feelings. Extreme depression robs you of motivation and energy, causing you to dwell upon your sorrow.

Losing a pet is not that easy, I know. And the most important step is to accept it and be honest about your feelings. Do not ever deny your pain, anger and guilt. Express it by screaming, crying, talk it out, etc… Locking away doesn’t make it all go away. Others find comfort in writing poems, stories, photo collage or the likes. Do not be afraid to get another puppy since he/she may not the be the same as the old one but he/she will always bring a whole new happiness in your home.

Have you ever tried losing a pet? How did you handle the emotions? What did you tell your kids? Tell us your story below.



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How Do Dogs Age? How Old is your Pekingese?

How do dogs age? It has always been believed that one year of a dog’s life is equal to 7 human years. However, that is not accurate since a one year old dog can already give birth while a 7-year old child cannot. Then there’s the world’s oldest dog alive at 29 years (that is 203 human years!) Experts these days have decided that 77 is the “new 60” and managed to come up with a more accurate method in calculating your dog’s age in human years.

If you happen not to know how old your pekingese is, bring him to a vet for you to find out. Vets would then check his teeth, eyes, coat and muscle tone to determine his age.

Teeth – Dogs have a complete set of permanent teeth when they reach 7 months, so if your dog still has wonderful pearly whites then chances are he is more likely a year old or so. Of there is yellowing on his back teeth may determine that he is already between 1-2 years old, while the presence of tartar would mean that he is between 3-5 years old. Missing teeth would determine that he is already a senior and would be needing dental care.

Coat – A young dog in general has fine, soft coat while older ones have a coarser, thicker coat. Plus, a senior dog may also show patches of whaite or gray hair on his face, especially the snout area.

Eyes – Clear, bright eyes would represent the younger dog while older ones have opaque or cloudy eyes.

Muscle tone Young dogs have a better muscle definition due to their high acitivity level. Older dogs are usually a little fatter and bonier due to their decreased activity.

How Do Dogs Age? How Old is your Pekingese?

How Do Dogs Age

A dog’s lifespan is only a fraction of the average human’s lifespan, which means that a dog ages more quickly in the same amount of time. A human of six is very young, but a dog of six is already middle aged.

Unfortunately, it’s not very accurate because dogs mature much more quickly than humans do. Dogs have shorter childhoods and longer adulthood. Dogs start walking at three weeks and reach physical maturity at 18 months. If we use the seven-for-one rule that would be the same as a human toddler walking at five months or a human child reaching physical maturity by age 11. Also, while a 15-year-old dog would be considered the equivalent of a 105-year-old person, many more dogs live to be 15 than humans live to be 105.

A more accurate formula would be: 10 and 1/2 dog years for the first two years, then four dog years per year thereafter. However, this formula does not take the dog’s size into consideration. We know that small dogs tend to live longer than large dogs, as much as twice as long.

Source: Wiki Answers, http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_calculate_a_dog’s_age_in_’dog_years’

How to Calculate your Dog’s Age

  • If your dog is 1 year old, that is equal to 15 human years and not 7 as we have always believed.
  • When he is 2 years old, then in human years he is actually already 24 years and not 14.
  • When your dog is 2 years old, add 4 years to the succeeding years. For instance, if he is 3 years old, then in human years he is already 28 years old; 4 years is equal to 32 years old, 5 years is to 36, so on and so forth…
  • Also take into consideration your dog’s size. Smaller dogs, like the pekingese, generally have a longer life span compared to the bigger breeds. Thus making the toy breeds have the longest life spans while the giant breeds having the shortest.

Now you know how to calculate a dog’s age and wouldn’t have to wonder how do dogs age really.  It is nice that you are corrected of a false belief regarding their age.  With this knowledge, you can share and spread the word out to your friends and other pet owners so that they will be educated as well.  It is essential for every owner to know how old their dogs really are so that appropriate care measures could be given.

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The Pekingese Life Span

The Pekingese Life Span

So, you want to know what is the average Pekingese life span? This elite breed has a median life expectancy of 11.4 years according to the UK Kennel Club.

The leading cause of death for the Pekingese, just like any other toy breeds is trauma. If we will categorize it per organ systems, on the top of the list is cardiovascular and neurologic issues (ex: CHF [congestive heart failure]). Such a disease could be easily treated with proper medication if diagnosed early. There are lots of Pekingese out there who has this issue but was able to pull it off and lived for many, many years. A heart murmur is a sign of an issue and must be eveluated by a vet immediately.

The other main concern for this breed are the breathing and eye issues due to their very small skull and flat face. Skin allergies is also an issue for them as well. The very common problem are eye ulcers 9which starts almost at any time), dry eyes and progressive retinal atrophy.

Your pekingese shouldn’t be allowed to stay outside, having a flat nose and face can cause breathing problems thus making it difficult for them to regulate their body temperature. Having said that, they are very prone to heat stroke. Their long body make them very susceptible to back problems. As an owner, you should be careful in picking them up; give his back full support (one hand under the chest while the other under the abdomen). Having short legs, the pekingese also has some difficulty when it comes to stairs; older pekes would require some assistance in going up and down the stairs.

Pekingese Life Span

The average life expectancy of the Pekingese dog breed is between 10 and 15 years, but there is increased health risks associated with the breed which pet owners should be aware of. The leading cause of death for Pekingese dogs, as for many other toy breeds, is congestive heart failure. When diagnosed early and treated with the proper medication, a Peke with this condition can expect to live many years.

Source: Pet Wave, http://www.petwave.com/Dogs/Dog-Breed-Center/Toy-Group/Pekingese/Health.aspx#more

More Pekingese Fun Facts:

  • Description: An ancient Chinese toy breed having a flat face, nose and long silky coats.
  • Average Pekingese weight: 8-14 lbs.
  • Average Pekingese height: 6-9 inches (up to the shoulder)
  • Coat and colors: Their coat is usually long, straight, coarse and comes in various colors.
  • Vet visit: A pekingese is estimated to have 85% vet visit in a year.
  • Average cost: for a medium sized dog over a 10 year period is over $13,000. This would give you a fairly good idea on how much it would cost to raise a Pekingese.
  • Symbolism: They are linked as the sacred symbol of Buddha.
  • Age: After 1 year, they are considered as adults. This is equivalent to 16 human years!
  • Other nicknames: Pekes Lion dog, Peking Palasthund.
  • Pekingese are also known as ‘sleevedogs’ since they were often seen inside the sleeves of the emperors way back before.

Now, you are already knowledgeable on the average pekingese life span. As an owner you can help them live a happy, fun-filled, long years with you or a very brief moment only. You can help them attain longevity by taking good care of him and making sure that your pekingese is getting everything that his body needs. On the other hand, if you are an irresponsible owner, you already know where that path would lead you. I would say, you will have your pekingese 1 year tops. It is all up to you now.

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